@vkc that might be hot take and there's a lot to work to be done but this is why I am really convinced by NixOS style ecosystems where all the expertise knowledge on how to self host X software is crowdsourced by many smart people and *packaged* into a usable to a non-expert developer audience
In the future, I hope to see more docs of how to run "personal services in a box" or "org services in a box"