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I don't display it anywhere within the UI
Then why bother? English has They/Them/Themself. Hebrew, one of the most misogynistic languages in the world, has the passive tone.
Simply drop it, then.
Besides, "male" and "female" aren't genders. What you're really asking is, "refer to me as... He, she or they"
Laxystem, Russian, Ukrainian, Polish and other Slavic languages require verbs in the past tense to match the gender of the person you're talking about. No way around it whatsoever except the absolutely ugly "(а)" at the end. Since Russian is my native language, my perfectionism can't possibly allow this. I even inflect people's names correctly.
By the way, this isn't a required field. You can just leave it as "not specified".