Neil Gaiman wrote: "Everything good that happened in my writing career happened because someone, normally another writer, helped me. Suggested me for something, put in a good word, and so on. The idea was always that you help others and they help others in their turn. It's not a win or lose game."

I'm not Gaiman, and probably neither are you (unless you are, in which case hi, Neil.)

But this is true for me and true for most of us.