conduct expectations are commensurate with your reputation, power and influence. this is why code of conducts have wordings like maintainers are expected to role-model and enforce good conduct

or in other words: you built it, you lead it, you own it. the good parts, and very much also the bad parts

there's no "accidental" when your community goes brigading and harrassing, because it simply doesn't matter whether it happens with intent or due to lack of clue