@Catvalente
Much of the fear mongering about "gender and sex are only ever binary" is a type of misogyny: the man is very valuable, the woman isn't as valuable. To them, if a man can become a woman, "he" willingly loses value; if a woman becomes a man, "she" is trying to gain value. So, to bigots, all trans people must be faking it or some kind of threat.
@Catvalente
Trans people, like married gay and queer couples, are a reminder to the bigot that the facade of value we place upon each other with gender norms is just that... a facade.