Biggest lightbulb that smashed into my head a few years ago was I can only control what and how I say. I can’t control how others choose to process my words.
I have a preferred style of writing influenced by my derad work. I write with kindness, sincerity, accuracy, but I also play with words.
Someone reads my kind words as cruel, or my sincerity as manipulation, or that my ideas are naive, that’s a them problem.
.. though i like being the naïf. easier to learn that way. ;)