Gregory's Server@levampyre @lolonurse you’re approaching it from a cis pov, one that centers the cis person and not the trans one. if someone discovered they had any other medical condition, would you be mad at them for previously portraying themselves as someone without it? why is this different? The answer is transphobia, and THAT is what can make it take decades to realize. we don’t need cis apologists.
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 @lolonurse If my significant other had a known medical condition and they only tell me after 40 years, I would question my relationship, too. And I would question myself: What have I done wrong that my love felt unable to confide in me? I mean, the wife divorcing your friend after coming out is all we need to know to answer the question of why your friend didn't come out to her for 40 years. It's just sad on so many levels. @tillybridges @levampyre @lolonurse this is what happens when we live in a society that is horribly transphobic. EVERY aspect of it does everything it can to force us to ignore, suppress, and deny the truth of who we are. and we risk losing it all when we come out. and the only way that will ever change is when cis people decide to change it, because there aren’t enough trans people to affect that change on our own. |
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In this particular instance, my friend, who I've known 55 years & love deeply, knew since she was 7 or 8, but never said a word. She lived almost 40 years of her life as a fairly macho man. I am not looking at is from a cis pov. I'm looking at what my friend went through before deciding to become who she really always has been. I'm looking with love, respect, awe.