Gregory's Server@lolonurse @levampyre yeah but they weren’t being lied to. that’s Cis Grief in action and it has nothing to do with us. we trans people are the ones who were actually lied to, by society and everyone around us who told us we were, and had to be, something that we’re not.
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@levampyre @lolonurse you’re approaching it from a cis pov, one that centers the cis person and not the trans one. if someone discovered they had any other medical condition, would you be mad at them for previously portraying themselves as someone without it? why is this different? The answer is transphobia, and THAT is what can make it take decades to realize. we don’t need cis apologists. @tillybridges @levampyre  @lolonurse If my significant other had a known medical condition and they only tell me after 40 years, I would question my relationship, too. And I would question myself: What have I done wrong that my love felt unable to confide in me? I mean, the wife divorcing your friend after coming out is all we need to know to answer the question of why your friend didn't come out to her for 40 years. It's just sad on so many levels. @tillybridges @levampyre @lolonurse this is what happens when we live in a society that is horribly transphobic. EVERY aspect of it does everything it can to force us to ignore, suppress, and deny the truth of who we are. and we risk losing it all when we come out. and the only way that will ever change is when cis people decide to change it, because there aren’t enough trans people to affect that change on our own. |
@tillybridges @levampyre
I definitely understand that you have negative feelings about society at large, & individual people. I think it isn't contradictory to acknowledge that someone who met & married & had children with someone, & lived their life for 15 years with them, might feel shocked to learn their spouse is not the person they portrayed themselves to be. That doesn't negate the trans person's issues- each is entitled to what they feel.