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@kass @tillybridges @musevg @tillybridges today i was called a "40 year old man whose never had kids" cause i told her guilting my nephew into eating foods is bad parenting. So the entire day I kept talking about my transition. When she got my refill for estradiol and spiro i told her exactly what they were. all I got was a meek "okay" in response  @tillybridges @lolonurse @tillybridges I love a happy ending. I hate that so much intolerance had to be endured before it. @badken @tillybridges @lolonurse @tillybridges Sure, but the whole family situation must have sucked. Glad thatβs all behind her. @badken @lolonurse not to mention that living with dysphoria is, in fact, painful and torturous @tillybridges @badken @lolonurse @badken the pain of gender dysphoria has nothing to do with pain from surgeries @badken @tillybridges @lolonurse whereas i lived as an assumed girl/woman for 45 years, during which time i earned a BSc(Hons), a PhD, tenure, some prizes, etc, and then i transitioned. what those of us who are older had to do in our first incarnation wasnβt merely a choice, it was actually determined by the local level of societal cissexism/transphobia. e.g. there were zero services for trans children, youth, or young adults where i grew up.  @levampyre @lolonurse sadly it's incredibly common for trans people. it's much rarer that a spouse or significant other stays with us during and after transition. @tillybridges I know. Too familiar with the sad reality of trans lives. β :trans_flag: @lolonurse Well, I wish everyone had such a loving, self-secure and trusting relationship that they didn't have to lie to each other about these things. You should not have to have such secrets, nor such unwritten, normative expectations from the people you love. The world would be a much better place. @tillybridges @levampyre @tillybridges @lolonurse @levampyre yeah but they werenβt being lied to. thatβs Cis Grief in action and it has nothing to do with us. we trans people are the ones who were actually lied to, by society and everyone around us who told us we were, and had to be, something that weβre not. @tillybridges @levampyre @levampyre @lolonurse youβre approaching it from a cis pov, one that centers the cis person and not the trans one. if someone discovered they had any other medical condition, would you be mad at them for previously portraying themselves as someone without it? why is this different? The answer is transphobia, and THAT is what can make it take decades to realize. we donβt need cis apologists. @tillybridges @levampyre @lolonurse If my significant other had a known medical condition and they only tell me after 40 years, I would question my relationship, too. And I would question myself: What have I done wrong that my love felt unable to confide in me? I mean, the wife divorcing your friend after coming out is all we need to know to answer the question of why your friend didn't come out to her for 40 years. It's just sad on so many levels. @tillybridges @levampyre @lolonurse this is what happens when we live in a society that is horribly transphobic. EVERY aspect of it does everything it can to force us to ignore, suppress, and deny the truth of who we are. and we risk losing it all when we come out. and the only way that will ever change is when cis people decide to change it, because there arenβt enough trans people to affect that change on our own.  @tillybridges I fucking love things like this. Such kindnessβ€οΈ in a perfectly hilarious approach.  @tillybridges TIL some people's learning style is "learning by decibel"  @jkbecker @tillybridges Also works with Lumen. Or, if anything else fails and you're desperate, even Joule or β¬/h. @tillybridges Now that you mention it, an airhorn could solve a lot of similar problems. Imagine standing next to Donald Trump with an airhorn as he made a speech. I really think you're onto something here. @RustyRing @tillybridges "Blow the air horn every time Trump says something incorrect, stupid, or offensive." "I hope you brought a lot of air horns!" @TechyDad @tillybridges You know, you could just go completely objective and blast him every time anything unattested came out of his mouth. And you're right: we'd need a case of the mofos.  An air horn is used in Episode 2 of the brand new Fargo TV series, this is Season 5. It didnβt turn out so well.   Hilarious! But of course the parents are very naΓ―ve in handling that seriously. If a kid of mine would pull the trans-spiel, I would immediately join in with "Honky McSlayQueen, the Ultra-Sexy GirlBoss Mom", and insist that they use pronouns sheshe/herher. Put on a hat and glasses from my great-grandmother's time of course. And then keep telling them they are "transphobe" for not playing along. Calling family meetings, pretending to feel unsafe, and all that. π³οΈβπ π³οΈββ§οΈ π π€‘ @tillybridges ...we are all God's children... every single one of us... in His eyes, we are all loved regardless of what race, creed, orientation, belief, whathaveyou brah...     @tillybridges I sense an opportunity in pink-white-blue themed air horns. π  @tillybridges GDI I need to find one thatβs safe in smaller spacesβ¦thatβs awesome.  @tillybridges an alternative learning technique, if the noise is a deal breaker, is to use a water spray on their faces every time they say it wrong  @tillybridges |
@tillybridges I should do that. I'm 40 years old and been on HRT for 3 months and my mom still deadnames me and misgenders me...even as I finally used the word 'estradiol' next to her.
but yknow? I know who I am, so do my friends and that's all that matters