@darius I'm only a little on edge because I have seen posts go around with "defederate from instance A because they federate with instance B" and.... if people move to more of an allowlist method of federation, that'd be sad for tiny instances like mine. it's a fairly tangential concern though

@darius

For most people, not so much.

For abusers, or those who wish to be jerks, it's a huge deal. They see people behaving like themselves being blocked, and fear they might suffer the same fate.

I'm on a high-asshole-blocking instance, and I like it that way.

@darius for technical aspects it doesn't afaik.
for friendship-alignment purposes it does, same as trying to maintain "neutral third party" ship among a broken set of friend groups.

we are on a SOCIAL media website and so social things are what we do on this website.
darius........ we live, in a society, online

@darius we defederated from gab, and I heard the server went down?
When many defederate from a server, it's an aggressive measure. The users on that server gets a smaller fediverse, less fun interactions, and drop off the server to various degrees.

This tactic only works if many other servers agree. Therefore, it's important to talk about how it happens. Because communication is good.