Gregory's ServerGod I get outgrouped so hard on mastodon it just cracks me up. It's honestly not to the level of trolling which is why standard social media language doesn't fit well to describe my personal experiences here. But it's OUTGROUPING and that's real. It's so funny when I respond with just as much cold bluntness as someone replied to me with and suddenly it's like "my god how dare"
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 @grimalkina I think so much about the socializing afflictions people show on here and am still not sure how to describe them. Like truly people are not ever learning or using social cues, boundaries, and other very basic childhood era social consents. It's worrying!! @aetataureate thank you for affirming this! I interpret it as a kind of contemptuous dismissal of those kinds of cues (which matter a lot to me given that I often study their impact) which is just mind-boggling to me. Sometimes for sure there are obvious innocent mistakes (I make them too, we all have perception filters sometimes) but I was thinking about when people seem to fully fail to correct or dispute the impact of these behaviors on the receiver @grimalkina the fedi has a huge component of people utterly convinced of their own right-ness, that when you’re “correct”, manners and tone don’t matter, and at the same time, more able to be appalled at the slightest pushback than a stereotypical Victorian spinster. They are just ridiculous. |
But, many people ingroup and those are the folks who stick around following this shouty version of me 🤗 I see you! idk y'all, I just like conversations and don't like being an object. Many of us are like this I think.