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If you launched a reply with a misconception say "sorry"! If you ask me to teach you something say "thank you"! If someone has opened up to share an emotion say "that must be hard"! We're in a relationship if we're talking. A ridiculous, fleeting, tiny relationship, but still. I look at every replier I don't know to see if they follow me -- that's cog effort too! I am way colder to the people who don't follow me because I assume we have no reciprocity! Would you text me like this? 9 comments
But, many people ingroup and those are the folks who stick around following this shouty version of me 🤗 I see you! idk y'all, I just like conversations and don't like being an object. Many of us are like this I think.  @grimalkina I think so much about the socializing afflictions people show on here and am still not sure how to describe them. Like truly people are not ever learning or using social cues, boundaries, and other very basic childhood era social consents. It's worrying!! @aetataureate thank you for affirming this! I interpret it as a kind of contemptuous dismissal of those kinds of cues (which matter a lot to me given that I often study their impact) which is just mind-boggling to me. Sometimes for sure there are obvious innocent mistakes (I make them too, we all have perception filters sometimes) but I was thinking about when people seem to fully fail to correct or dispute the impact of these behaviors on the receiver @grimalkina the fedi has a huge component of people utterly convinced of their own right-ness, that when you’re “correct”, manners and tone don’t matter, and at the same time, more able to be appalled at the slightest pushback than a stereotypical Victorian spinster. They are just ridiculous.  It feels like fairly slow oral communication to me! Really all that's missing is picking up the tab or buying the next round. I've promised myself to think about datenight today and not dwell only on the failure of our republic today, I hope that you can do something similar! @mycotropic gosh so much of the time I am like, "this is a conversation for drinks not this post" :). I am doing some nice things thank you!! Writing a paper I am really loving today |
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God I get outgrouped so hard on mastodon it just cracks me up. It's honestly not to the level of trolling which is why standard social media language doesn't fit well to describe my personal experiences here. But it's OUTGROUPING and that's real. It's so funny when I respond with just as much cold bluntness as someone replied to me with and suddenly it's like "my god how dare"