If you can't see the difference between a massive, industry dominating conglomerate with a history of devastating what it considers to be competitors, and an instance run as a hobby, then I can't help you.
Frankly, I can't believe anyone could be that naive.
@Sir_Osis_of_Liver Do you refuse to accept text messages or phone calls from friends unless they're on the same phone network as you? Do you refuse to send e-mails to your friends unless they self-host their e-mail? It should not matter what provider you use. People should be able to connect. That's the principle of the fediverse.